Comments on Farmers Wifey: Let it go......

I love that show too and so much of what you'v...

2012-01-17T20:31:57.239+10:00

I love that show too and so much of what you've said resonates with me too...

Think I could be a mixture of both. A structure an...

2012-01-14T00:55:28.015+10:00

Think I could be a mixture of both. A structure and routine goes a long way, but it's so nice to have fun too!

CJ x

Our prob is that we both are 'good Cop'. W...

2012-01-13T21:59:38.882+10:00

Our prob is that we both are 'good Cop'. We desperately need a bad cop! x

OMG my household exactly. Almost like good cop- b...

2012-01-12T21:32:13.586+10:00

OMG my household exactly. Almost like good cop- bad cop. I am the bad cop,always. No you can't do blah blah blah, go here there or the other, and yes I am an evil witch. But your father is perfect. Got to love it, otherwise shrivel up and wail incessantly.

We are like them too. But MPS is the bumbling idi...

2012-01-12T20:14:16.019+10:00

We are like them too.

But MPS is the bumbling idiot and I am always cleaning up after him.

Heh.

You are an awesome mum. Own it.

Just discovered your blog recently and am really e...

2012-01-12T19:48:53.259+10:00

Just discovered your blog recently and am really enjoying reading.
Our household works pretty much the same, Hubby is the fun parent and I am the mean disciplinarian. As much as I can't stand it at times and want to be the fun parent, I know that we need both roles in our house, otherwise chaos would reign and I definitely wouldn't cope with that.
Sounds like you're doing a great job, you have special things that are just for you and the kids and they will always remember them as they get older.

It's sad that you have to feel that way. Have ...

2012-01-12T13:07:26.825+10:00

It's sad that you have to feel that way. Have you talked to him? Maybe he can set aside more time for you to go out and do fun things and he stay home and do whatever needs doing.

In our home, we're kind of evenly split. Not that one is the disciplinarian and the other the fun one.
I'm the gentlest. The one who will spend an hour rubbing a back, kissing and just loving on them. Joel is the one who's hugs and kisses are big and boisterous and fun, they usually turn into tickles.

Joel is the one who takes them places - camping, swimming, bushwalking, riding bikes etc. I'm the 'funny' one who can jolly them out of a bad mood.

But HE'S the outdoor fun parent. He can do things that I can't do, simply because of my health. So much so that when I get into the car, they're shocked that i'm coming. So I find myself feeling like I must be the boring parent.

I have to remind myself though, we just both have different strengths. I'm still the one they come to when they're upset. I'm still the one they come to in the middle of the night or when they're sick. I'm the one who knows when they're sad and can predict how they will react to something, thus avoiding triggers that will cause ASD Meltdowns. And I'm the dorky, funny one at home.

It sounds like you have plenty of lovely time. Taking time to sit and have fish and chips. One on one dates with them. You sound like a wonderful mother, just as he sounds like a wonderful father. Sounds to me like they have the best of both worlds.

I hear ya! I'm the resident kill-joy in our ho...

2012-01-12T06:11:53.627+10:00

I hear ya! I'm the resident kill-joy in our house. Hate to be that way...it's not the best form of myself and it stresses me out, but my little ones wouldn't get a wink of sleep and would have fast food for every meal and would probably end up buried alive in building blocks, robot parts and stuffed animals if it weren't for Mama trying to reign them in. Sigh.

This Ozark Farm Chick hopped over from Dreaming...

2012-01-12T02:39:27.467+10:00

This Ozark Farm Chick hopped over from Dreaming's place just to say Howdy to another farm gal and am so glad I did.

Tradin' places wouldn't work too well 'round here. Farm Boy won't touch anything that touches the house. That includes the yard too. That's house work. Heehehehehe!!!

Me on the other hand...My favorite sayin' 'round here is, "Ya want me to do what???" This usually involves big machinery in dangerous places...that or wild~eyed cattle! Swallowin' my fear and pride I usually get~er~done! :o)

From the sunlit hills and hollers of the Missouri Ponderosa, ya'll have a blessed and beautiful day now...ya hear!!!

Letting go is really hard! And, as the kids get ol...

2012-01-12T01:11:01.501+10:00

Letting go is really hard! And, as the kids get older, it's really important! In my way of thinking, you help your kids establish priorities and ethical codes of behavior in their younger years... then let them practice those with increasing independence. It is hard to send them off, for example, when they begin driving. It's hard to not be such an important part of their lives. So... do enjoy them and let them enjoy being with you when they are young - but, you still have to practice some control and be the meany at times!

I so agree with you, I'm so afraid of letting ...

2012-01-11T23:38:45.639+10:00

I so agree with you, I'm so afraid of letting go and having the place fall into some kind of chaos! Well more chaos than it already is!

I'm the one who has to manage the mundane and ...

2012-01-11T23:32:50.210+10:00

I'm the one who has to manage the mundane and often reel in the fun here too.
Finding a happy balance would be brilliant.
:-)