February 9, 2018

Balance

I was thinking the other day how, at times, I can be super lazy, well that's a bit harsh maybe, but give me a choice between getting shit done, or reading my favourite magazine with cake and tea, you can guess what I'd choose.

But things need to be done, the house has to be run, the kids kept fed, watered and dressed and driven to the right place on time, so I've been trying to find that balance, and I feel pretty good about it at the moment.

Because I'm working part time, in a fabulous job that I love, I'm really trying to make the most of my home time... organisation is the key people! I usually tend to the daily grind in the mornings, ie washing, cleaning, cooking, sorting, paying bills and getting organised so I can enjoy the afternoons doing something I love.

When I'm home alone, I really enjoy the silence, to be honest, but when The Hubbster and kids come home, it's usually chaotic, noisy and crazy, and everyone talks at the same time and my head spins, but that is what a family is about, so I am embracing these times because as the years go on, the dynamics of our family will shift.

In fact, I try to think of what life was like BK (Before Kids) and I really can't remember what it was like to be responsible for just me.  To have the freedom to make choices and take risks, perhaps, with no consequence to anyone else but myself. I travelled alone because I could, and at times worked full time AND part time because I didn't have a house full of kids to come home to and look after.

But during these times, there was always that longing, in the back of my mind, that I needed to, and wanted to get married and have a family, it was almost like a calling and as many of my friends during my 20's married and started their families, I really wondered if it would ever happen to me.

Well it did.  I was a late starter, getting married at 32, and having my babies at 33, 35 and 37. And so it began, the period known as AF (After Kids or All Crazy) because at times that's how it is! This has truly been the most important, happy, frustrating but joyous time of my life. From being a new mother with a newborn, a 2 year old and a 4 year old, to now, having the three of them in high school.

It has been a challenge, because as much as I think I'm doing a great job of being a mum, there have been times where I think I've failed miserably.   I can be really hard on myself, but after talking with other mothers, I don't think I'm alone. Whether it be issues about money, lack of time, responsibility or just the day to day slog we all go through, being a mother/parent is hard work.

But rewarding.  Oh so cliche, but so true.

So here I am, in the middle of the busiest time of mine, and my children's lives, trying to find that balance, enjoying the moment as it is fleeting, and trying to do a good job of raising these country kids  I still have goals but at the moment they are dreams for the next chapter which will come all too soon.

How do YOU have balance in your life?

Farmers Wifey xo

February 3, 2018

One Word


I've been thinking about the word I want to choose for the year ahead, a word to guide me in a positive way in 2018.

It's already February and I'm just getting onto this, so I definitely won't be choosing punctuality as I'm late already! But February is a month to breathe, the kids are back at school, the book lists and uniforms are sorted, and the craziness of Christmas really does seem like a distant memory.  Which actually makes me kind of sad.

So I had a look back at past One Word entries,which included Discover, Organise, and possibly even Inspire. Having turned the big 50 last year, I've been taking stock of my life and thinking carefully about what I want to achieve this year.

I have chosen EMBRACE.

Embrace life, be appreciative and grateful for what I have. To be there, in the moment for my family. To be happy and do things that I enjoy, instead of writing them on a To Do List, for when I actually have time.  MAKE time, because life is short, there will never be another today.

I've already started to make little changes, and I can see the difference already.  I've simplified my online time to do only the things that give me joy, I've removed my name from time wasting email lists, grouped together my favourite blogs, so I can easily access and read them because they make me happy, and I've simplified my facebook friends list.

Little changes, here and there, but all adding up to a more simplified, organised, happy life. There is so much more, but I won't write it down, I'll just do it.

Embrace.  I love the sound of it.

Farmers Wifey xo

December 31, 2017

And So It Goes

A friend posted today how she hadn't blogged in 6 months, and it was so interesting as this WAS BASICALLY ME.

My last post was back in June or a lifetime ago really, and it's not that I've lost the eagerness to write and share, it's just that life, kids, work, stress, lack of time/lack of discipline, and a messy creative space have been my roadblocks.

I really, really miss it, and I miss reading other blogs too. I've stayed connected on Facebook but it's not the same, it's just not.

It's the perfect time to rethink my goals, being the last day of the year today, and as I think of my blog as my fourth baby because of the heart that I've put into it in the past, I want to look after it, nurture it and not leave it gathering dust in a corner somewhere.

Where it's been apparently for the last six months!

So, what are my goals for my blog in 2018? I'm glad you asked! Well obviously to log in and actually blog, that's a good start! I'm wanting to write about the things I love which include and are not limited to, my house, my family, design and decorating, the farm, the guinea fowl, beautiful homes, my guitar playing (something else that I've neglected)......And so it goes.

To write from the heart, to express emotion, to write honestly and truthfully and beautifully, and to connect....this is what I want to do.

Please stick around, I promise it will be worth it.

Farmers Wifey xo

July 8, 2017

50 and Fabulous!

Yep, I can't believe it either!


Farmers Wifey xo

July 20, 2016

Winning The Day

I find it fascinating, how much I can get done in a day, when I don't go back to bed after dropping the kids at the bus stop.

I wave them goodbye, yell FREEDOM and sometimes even high five myself, when the bus is out of sight, if it happens to be my day off! Today I did go back to bed which was a bad idea, because I then woke up at 10.30am feeling tired and slow and totally not motivated to get all of the things done that I had promised myself I would do.

On a similar day last week, I was feeling good, it was nice weather and the house was quiet as everyone had gone. I knew my window of opportunity was from 8am to 4pm so I silently played this mantra over and over in my head do not go back to bed.

I made a cup of tea and sorted the washing - colours/whites, riveting stuff I know, but as I'm apparently the maid it had to be done. Sucks that.

I sat on the deck, ate breakfast and read the news, trying not to get engrossed in Buzzfeed because once I'm in THAT website I can't get out, and can spend hours looking at posts like this.   Seriously, look at number 9, he's called a Booby and had the kids sniggering for hours because, you know Booby.


Image credit Buzzfeed

However today was going to be fine because I was determined to win the day. I decided to water Miss T's garden which is going really well except for her cactus which I think I have overwatered and now has cactus rot.  I know this because Google told me and also because it's mouldy and covered in a mushy substance. The whole thing has now fallen over but I'm going to blame the guinea fowl.

I even have proof:- questionable as it may be....



See he wants me to believe he was ONLY smelling the flowers but I think he was pecking the cactus and that's why it fell over with cactus rot and mould.

Sounds fair to me.


And the cactus in happier times......RIP.

This guy didn't get inside so I won the day there.


In the morning I had asked the kids to get their football training gear ready for a quick afternoon getaway, And they did!  Well they dumped everything in a massive pile on the couch, which I have arranged here neatly because I have so much time on my hands and nothing better to do, remember Maid.


I pottered around for the rest of the day, and unpacked a box of clothes in the shed and found one of my old dancing dresses from a million years ago.  I promptly washed it and hung it out in the sunshine, then went and found a photo of me wearing the dress to prove to my girls that I actually had a waist and was once 14 year olds.



I mean, seriously, look at that waist! And dancing with my eyes closed, must have been a new style at the time.

Miss T (aged 11) is thrilled with the dress and it now hangs proudly in her closet. She loves dressing up, and has been known to rock the leggings/skirt/boots/singlet combo. If she wants to wear it to the supermarket I might just let her because she will sparkle in the sun!

Hubby took the kids to football training so I watched the news at 5, and drank tea and ate the chocolate muffin that I had hidden.  It was worth it.

So all in all, compared to some other days which have been shitty and cloudy and boring, I won the day. Little things really, nothing super exciting or life changing but time out to potter around, to sit in the sun and not have to BE anywhere.

How's your day?  You winning?

Farmers Wifey xo

PS For some reason, your comments on previous posts have disappeared,  putting me in the corner of the bloggy dancefloor....alone....so leave me a comment and I will visit you too!